I’m having a bad day.
Do you ever have those days when you’re continuously complimented on how you look? One may take this as a huge compliment…. But not me. Not at all. Doesn’t the fact that even my prof made a point of hopping on the bandwagon to tell me I look nice today say something about my appearance every other day?!
I think I need to step up my game.
To add insult to injury, I was riding home tonight on the TTC with about 10 other classmates, one girl - I shit you not - stops everyone mid conversation and says “Guys, can I just point out how nice her (read: my) hair looks today.”
Thanks everyone, thanks a lot. way to put that nail in the coffin. And the worst part of it all; I looked way too good today not to be seen by a cute boy.
- Anonymous
my two cents (for the boys):
i can’t count the number of times i have been told to ‘learn to take a compliment’. but compliments aren’t always positive. sometimes they are disguised criticisms or challenges. to be reasonable maybe girls just see it that way because we are prone to being insecure, over-analytical and hyper-sensitive (but who can blame us when there is so much pressure to be fucking perfect all the time). it sucks, but it’s also hard on the guy or ‘complimenter’ because he probably did just mean to say something nice without any subtext, maybe he was being perfectly sincere! then he gets all baffled and hurt and confused when we get all bristly and defensive and he gets so exhausted trying to keep up that he just concludes that we are crazy and makes a point of never complimenting us again which makes us even more insecure. and really, who can expect a nice boy to tolerate such a roller-coaster of emotions (that really isn’t even our fault because it loops back to their being so much pressure on us)? it becomes a horrible cycle of evil and this is why we’re single.
- e.k.
