i suspect that i am not the only girl who gets a strange thrill out of learning all about a new guy’s ex(s). i’m not a jealous person - if anything it makes me a little smug, because he’s not with her/them anymore is he? nope, he’s with me. plus you’d think it would be advantageous to learn just what he didn’t like about her/them, and why it didn’t work out. but in most cases (in my experience), no matter who the guy is, no matter how long they dated etc, his explanation usually boils down to her being irrational, needy, demanding, controlling, “crazy” or all of the above.
that makes it easy though, right? that means all i have to do to remain this fellow’s number one is to never appear irrational, needy, demanding, controlling, “crazy” or all of the above.
er…right.
SO ANSWER ME THIS GUYS!!:
is it better to be upfront with you and tell you what we want/need/think we deserve and risk appearing demanding or needy etc?
OR
would you rather we do that “girl thing” where we get all stand-offish and drop hints as to why we’re displeased, then get annoyed when you’re too thick to pick up on the cues?
because this kind of question turns into a chicken-egg thing where trying not to seem crazy makes us behave strangely which makes us over-analyze which eventually drives us legit crazy. you are setting us up to fail here! or maybe we are setting ourselves up to fail? or… wait, fuck. maybe i just need to stop asking new boys about ex-girls. orrrrr maybe i should just give in to my inevitable fate and stay single forever. because my brain hurts.
- e.k.
